I was a practicing lawyer, a legal career does not always travel well, unless you work for an international law firm, which I didn't and still don't. My bank account routinely regrets this but my heart never does! I have been fortunate in that I have been able to continue working in the legal and non-profit field. This has allowed me to face new challenges and develop skills in an environment I never imagined myself to be in. Although my career trajectory is not the one I may have envisioned for myself when I first started reading Law or when I first qualified as a Lawyer. The diversity, whilst not exactly financially rewarding, is both personally rewarding and challenging.
It is not all about the work, we have lives outside of work too. Again the challenges faced with making new friends, making a home and a life for ourselves have not always been easy. But we have developed great friendships which we hope will endure, wherever we all find ourselves in the future. We have had unique experiences which are not specifically "career" related but do add to our "fun and/or interesting stories." The conscious decision of moving to an English speaking country has of course helped with the, "settling in." Although sometimes the regret of not being forced to learn a new language does rear it's ugly head from time to time, maybe next time?
Amongst my new friends, Ms Jennifer Bradley, has been working on various projects relating to this area, including a really interesting recent project: Career and Work Life Issues for Expatriate Accompanying Spouse or Partners: A Brief Survey. I was lucky enough to be involved and I guess that is what got me started on thinking about how best to describe the last three years of my life.
Watch this space for a brief summary of Jennifer's survey. But for now, I will conclude this post with the following; on the basis of my own conversations with various friends and acquaintances, who are all, "accompanying spouses"; we all made the decision to accompany a spouse, for various reasons and the impact for all of us is very different. Often as, "the follower" it can take that extra step to re-assert ourselves as individuals with our own goals to follow. That extra step can be hindered by various factors (not all of our own making) but with confidence and an open mind; goals can be achieved. They may not be what we first had in mind but they can be important and valuable goals, nonetheless. I am reminded of John Lennon's often repeated quote, "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." It is so perfect, and I would not have it any other way. Although, as always, I do reserve the right to amend this point of view, subject to future developments. Jigna.
PS: As promised, here is a link to Jennifer's website and slideshow presentation, "Work Life Issues for Expatriate Accompanying Spouses & Partner". Thank you Jennifer.
2 comments:
This is such a beautifully written post jigs, made me want to cry abit, i think what you have done and achieved -Ms Liberty Bell-over the last 3 years and a bit has been amazing.
My career trajectory i think is panning out similar to yours and ive always been so proud of what you have been doing- even though you down play it all-and you've always inspired me to keep searching for what i want to do/be. i feel like this is what you did as an 'accompanying spouse' and now you can look back for having to endure dallisites (love u michelle!!) but be grateful for everything you learned about everything and yourself...and your husband!
jokes aside and with a non-pAtronizing tone, mum and i read this and were moved by it; from where we are sitting it has been difficult watching you be homesick sometimes, trying to understand and knowing there is nothing we can do; all the communications sometimes feels like we just rubbing your face in it...ie ketchup mugh and rotli, and when life gets busy here feeling bad for not being available more and to read this is lovely because everybody should have their own goals and like you said 'an open mind and confidence' to achieve them are such valuable and inspiring qualities to have.
My Das is a very lucky man to have such a clever and strong 'accompanying spouse'!
Your comment made me nearly cry, thanks so much and pass the tissues!
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